When she isn't ready for commitment...

I'm notable for being willing to talk about and address the taboo. I am a fairly open person so breaking down barriers and filters is actually good thing for me. I am not shooting for to be offensive or hurt feelings, but I do think there is a lot of value in talking about things that are non-ritualistic and bold.

One thing that I want to address is commitment. All of us have been in the situation where the other person states that he/she isn't ready for commitment. It's almost cliche isn't it? But it's also a huge cop-out.

Let me say something that is going to be hard to hear, but then I'll explain it more later...when someone says they aren't ready for commitment, what they are trying to say is that they don't want commitment with YOU. Not now...not ever. So when you hear these words, walk away. Or stay and that's okay...you'll probably learn a lesson or two from this person...but it's a dead end and here's why:

This person is feeling pressure to commit to you and like you, but they just don't for whatever reason. They've most likely thought about how it would be to commit to you, and their natural instinct is telling them it's just not right. They think you're great and probably like spending time with you. They like a lot of things about you, but you aren't right for them and so they tell you that they aren't ready.

In all honesty, they probably are telling you this because it's a crossroads. They know that this relationship could take off and they see that you're already somewhat invested. They know you would treat them right. They see your goodness...but it doesn't fit them. To get to the point of saying they aren't ready means that they've thought of it and know you've thought of it. You don't hear someone saying they aren't ready for commitment when you first meet them. This person has spent time with you and they just...know.

Now you know that they know. I've given you this great secret doorway into their thoughts and you can choose what you want to do from here on out. My advice would be to not settle for less than what you truly deserve. You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you. Simple! Respect yourself and, in turn, that person will respect you too. But they don't really matter after this point. They may be cool or cute, but don't put up with unfair treatment.

Is he/she not texting you back or not willing to see you? Is he/she wishy washy? Is he/she not giving as much as you are? MAY DAY MAY DAY...mission abort.

You're great. There is someone out there who will see all of your qualities and love them. This person obviously doesn't appreciate what you have to offer and that's their loss.

Some people don't like fresh apple pie! I don't like chocolate. Don't force someone to like chocolate or they might just resent you. Walk away and enjoy your chocolate with someone else who likes chocolate. Haha I'm getting a little carried away here, but...get my point? You're awesome. That's my point.